When I was growing up, being gay meant feeling like a weirdo, but people are feeling so much more comfortable in their sexuality now.
I’ve talked with a lot of gay friends about how much has changed. It wasn’t a big surprise to my parents-they were like, “So?”-but I think it was a very different time compared to now. Getting into a good 69 position can be tricky, and there are different ways to do it. I didn’t come out until the very beginning of college, when I was 18 or 19. Try the best oral sex position for you and your partner the 69. That time was kind of my queering into fashion, but it was definitely not a sexual thing at all-more like playing with identity and self. My friend Erica and I decided to start creating these fake holidays where we would get dressed up for high school-I took it really far, and would show up on a random Wednesday in the middle of April with a shattered mirror hot-glued to a t-shirt, or wearing everything backwards, or wearing all these button downs layered on top of each other (that look was inspired by a Viktor & Rolf collection that had just come out).
Queerness really emerged for me around 2004, when I was 15 or 16. Growing Up, Coming Out is a series of personal reflections from queer American designers, released every day this month.
